Blonde Overtakes..Random Thoughts

Ok Ok We admit it.. the blonde in me is standing up and taking notice.  Slip slap.. I said Ms Blonde thing get out of my brain cells.  I want to be able to write again.  I miss all my quirky little posts.  I'm afraid to post some of the stories that you have coming out of me.  My readers might die of a heart attack.  It's not my fault that you don't want to have any.  Or maybe its me that doesn't want to have any. 

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Husband, go play with that thing on your own time.  Stop waking me up every morning playing with yourself.  It is not romantic at all.   Please don't tell me to get out of bed because you are making it bounce all over.  I want to sleep at 6 am.  I want you to get out of the bed and go play by yourself.

OMG I just sounded like my mother!!!  Help Help!!  Bring back the blonde!
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Have I told any of you that I was a blonde when all the blonde jokes started coming out?  I was terrified that all my brain cells were going to die because of all the chloride going to my brain.  Most times I have incredibly dark hair. 

OK well most of my hair is dark.  WTH is happening to my hair??  It's always been straight and thick.. now I have this freaking white hair coming in.  I said WHITE not gray.  Not only is this stuff all over my head..and I think I look like a pepper shaker.  This new hair feels like wire.  What does that mean???  Am I going to have pubic hair on my head when I get old?  Help help... need sane woman here.

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My son let my cat out of the house yesterday!!  My beautiful cat.  The sad part is... I didn't realize he was gone until late at night and I was looking for him.  I mean come on!  He drives me insane all day and the day that I don't notice he gets out of the house???  I feel for my neighbors...imagine this.. the crazy woman next door with black and white hair is screaming Tom Tom where are you?  at the top of her lungs wearing a long dark blue nightgown in the middle of a dark pitch night... I'm so white my face was glowing.  I probably looked like a screaming head without a body.  Neighbors if you read this.. Well don't look at my house!!!  And blame it on Jason.

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Thank goodness for the tv star that has a big hiney.. You changed the style for the better.  Come on what was up with these fashion designers about 3 years ago when my baby girl was 4.  She was wearing these pants that showed off her butt.  Let me tell you I didn't know before she put them on.  It wasn't the greatest place for her to have them on when I realized.  WTH are designers thinking when they make that kind of clothes for a 4 year old child????
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Woman... please try to get your stories straight.  If you tell me at one point, that the state is going after the father of your son for child support.  I'm going to believe you.  But if a year later, you tell me that your baby's father died in a car accident while hitchhiking and you can't get social security because you can't prove that he was the father.  I'm going to know that one of those stories is a lie.  SO Tell me which one it is.


Blondie out

Wordless Wednesday

Simply symbols of love

Magical Moments on Tuesday

It's time for Magical Moment on Tuesday for HeartsMakeFamilies! For those of you visiting for the first time, the goal is to talk about one thing during the week that was magical to you. I mean that you were over the top about. It could be a project you completed, something your child did, a grand new idea, something you saw, etc. Something that was so magical that you have to tell us about it. I know. I know. This is why we all have blogs. But sometimes we just write about the negative things because we had a bad week. So if we all write about a Magical Moment then we might uplift another blogger. This is the very reason that I have this blog so that one day my children can see. You do not have to be a mom to do this. To join us, on Tuesday post what your Magical Moment was (add my button from the right side bar or link to me) and then be sure to stop here to link up and meet other moms at HeartsMakeFamilies to see what their Magical Moment was.


This week my Magical Moment was with my husband.  I've been married a long time now.  We've been married seven years and together 11 years.  I love my husband with all my heart.  I know that he loves me as well.  But we got into a rut.  You see, our lives became typical.  It was about work, kids and school.  We lost that magical connection that we always had.  I know this is true for a lot of relationships after time.  It is not that we wouldn't do whatever is necesary for the other.  It's that you forget the little things that make you who you are together.

On Friday, we went to the Newport Aquarium with Faith's class.  There were just enough parents to go that were approved by the state.  You have to have a FBI check done before you can help out with the class.  So that meant that Ken and I both got our own group of girls.  I knew ahead of time that was going to happen.  I had told the teacher to let Ken have Faith in his group since all the kids know me.  I volunteer twice a week when Jason is going through his little preschool thingy.  All morning long, Ken and I were sharing these little smiles with something that the kids were doing.  We kept our groups together even though the class divided up and went their separate ways.  We had six girls between the two of us.  Let me tell you Faith was the worst.  But then we are her parents.  She thinks she can get away with anyone when we are there.  sigh.

We got to sharks, giant turtles, dolphins, penguins, octupus, etc.  The kids were so incredibly excited when Scuba Santa made an appearance in one of the tanks as well.  It was a lot of fun.  But all things must come to an end.  Ken and I had driven down to the Aquarium.  So when the girls went back to school, I was to find out that Ken had planned on us going to Joe's Crab Shack.  It has always been one of my favorite fish places in town. 

Ken insisted that we sit together in the booth on one side.  That hasn't happened since we were dating.  So here we are sitting next to each other.  Ken orders an appetizer, Garlicky Mussels.  My first thought was you want me to kiss you after you eat that?  I don't usually like garlic but this was soooo good.  So I reach for the menu.  Ken quietly pushs it away from me.  He orders the Joe's Steam Pot for two.  Oh boy, I'm thinking I'm going to be in heaven.  It comes out pipping hot in a bucket.   I do mean a bucket.  In the bucket is two kinds of crab, sausage, corn on the cob, small red potatoes, and shrimp. 

We were sitting in this booth smiling and giggling at each other.  Yes my husband was giggling.  We were talking about the kids and about the aquarium.  Ken was stealing a kiss here and there.  And we were holding hands.  The waiter actually asked if we were newlyweds.  We just smiled and said that we had been married 7 years and had NO ITCH.  The waiter told us that he hoped he was like we were when he was married that long.

Being together as we are meant to be.  Loving each other simply for the little bit of time we had together.  There is no more Magical Moment between Ken and I that I would adore.  giggle  It wasn't even about sex.  Taking this time out to reconnect with my husband is one of the best things I've done in a while.


Now it is your turn. Please post about what your Magical Moment was (add my button from the right side bar or link to me) and then be sure to stop here to link up and meet other moms at HeartsMakeFamilies to see what their Magical Moment was.

Mother Quotes

When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child. ~Sophia Loren, Women and Beauty


This quote simply says to me what I already know.  It says that everything that I now do as a mother I think about how my child will react to it.  When I'm making a purchase I now typically think, do I need this?  Will my child have to go without something?  When I'm planning my day I typically think, what are the kids doing today?  Can I spare the time away from them?  When I'm talking to my mother, when have my kids seen her last?  Should we go visit?  When I'm going to the store, do I need to pick up any treats?  Is that healthy for them to eat?  And heaven forbid even when I'm in the bathroom, did I get this done or that?  Is the tub clean?  Did I pick up the toys?  Did I remember this or that?

15 days ago

Fifteen days ago, I read that smoking can kill you; The next day I stopped smoking.
Twelve days ago, I read that too much read meat can kill you; The next day I stopped eating red meat.
Eight days ago, I read that drinking can kill you; The next day, I stopped drinking.

Yesterday, I read that sex can kill you; This morning I stopped reading!!!!


Note:  this is old but I so love it.

WoodWick® Candles: Caramel Review and Giveaway

With the holidays right around the corner, I have decided to talk about the perfect gift for my women friends and to make this my first giveaway.  It was years ago that I stopped by a close friend of mine.  I was pleasantly surprised at the wonderful aroma that was coming out the front of her house.  I was literally on the door step and could smell it.  I thought my friend was baking something that was making my mouth water.  When I got inside the house to my surprise, I found out that she had a WoodWick® Candles: Caramel.  Yes, you guessed it.  I had to run out and get one of my very own.  For a year, I have had this candle in my house.

Now, they run for about $23.99 but they are worth it.  I've had mine for a year and its just now burning out.  It is going to the very bottom of the candle as well.  It is a 22 oz candle and has a natural wick made from organic wood.  The thing that gets me about this candle so unlike any other is that it reminds me of a crackling fire when it is burning.  The wood wick does it.  My house literally smells like I am making cookies when I am burning it.  It smells like carmel and brown sugar with a hint of french vanilla cream.  The candle burns for 180 hours.  Can you imagine how much you would like having your house smell like that full time?  Its amazing.

As you have probably noticed, I do have a logo for them on the bottom of my page.  I am an affiliate with them now.  I have decided that I need to purchase myself one now to replace mine.  At the same time, I will be giving one away.  They are not supplying me with one.  I want one of you, my readers, to have one so that your house can smell extremely good during the holidays.  Here are the guidelines for the giveaway.

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What Makes Me A Theta Mom?

While I was sick Menopausal New Mom was kind enough to tag me as a Theta Mom (The True, Authentic Mom). Menopausal New Mom shared with us why she thought she was a Theta Mom so please check out her post here. I want you to know that I was very touched by her request. I'm supposed to share five reasons that I believe have shaped me into a Theta Mom.
Here they are:

1.  When Faith was 12 months old, she began to get sick and stayed sick. I was literally terrified. My precious little baby was capable of having hand, foot and mouth, strep throat and ear infection at the same time and act like it was an every day occurrence. Did I accept the doctors telling me it was normal? No, I did not because there was something wrong with my baby. I wanted to solve the issue. We realized that she couldn't stay in preschool with her being so ill. I chose to stop working outside the house and come home. I didn't work for over two years as we fought to make her better. She had her adenoids, tonsils, and tubes removed by the time she was 18 months old. She saw top specialists. She had more blood work and tests than you can imagine. Still I didn't stop.

My baby girl was almost 2 years old before she weighed 20 lbs. We were told that she probably had cystic fibrosis. Let me tell you hearing those words were like a cut to our hearts. I was so upset but then I kicked myself in the butt and said get up and find a way. I did my research on the internet. None of it was good but I was determined that my daughter would live a happy normal life. We would just change things to accommodate the illness. The illness would not be her life. It would simply be part of it. The doctors were wrong. She did not have it. She had a very bad immune system which really wasn’t surprising since her biological mother did not tell good care of herself while she was pregnant. We fought for several years with her health. But today she is a healthy seven year old girl. She is rarely sick. During her illness, Faith barely spoke. While she was sick, she would bang her head against the wall. We tried to stop her whenever we saw it. But we knew something was wrong because of it. It was so frustrating for me to see her frustration by it. I just wanted her to be able to communicate with me. By the time she was 2 years old, she spoke 10 words. She now suffers from a speech issues but we are working on that as well.

2. I carry a backpack with me as a purse so that I am always prepared. In the backpack, I have toys, crayons, paper, coloring book, snacks, drinks, and wipes. I used to try to carry a book or magazine with me but I never got to look at it. I stopped carrying them because I would want to look at it and my job was to entertain the kids. Period. I take an extra suitcase on vacation full of toys. It is so much fun packing for them on trips. Ok I have all their clothes ready. Now how many toys do we pack away?

3. I tried to maintain that relationship with their birth mother. I had known Marsha since she was 4 years old. I watched her grow up. I loved her as much as if she was my own during those years. She was the first child that I attached myself to when I found out that I would not be able to have kids. So you can see how hard it would be to walk away from her. You see, Marsha was willing to see Faith only when she could show her off to her newest boyfriend. Marsha was not stable enough for me to have around the kids. She was getting into drugs and the wrong people. I could not provide a stable environment with her in it. She would call to talk with me about this and that but never bring up Faith. So being Faith’s mother first, I chose to stop any communication. She has never called since. I still miss her today. But for the safety of Faith, I removed her involvement in our lives.

At one point, I was going to her Myspace and her aunt’s Myspace to get pictures of their siblings. Jason included. We found out about Jason going into foster care through the aunt’s Myspace. She was begging for people to call and tell foster care that it was wrong. I didn’t think twice about calling to tell them that if Jason was not returned to the aunt that we would take him. I thought of Faith’s and Jason’s well being first. They were my first priority. I didn’t think about what my husband would say. I didn’t think about how this would affect my family’s financials. I simply thought about how this would affect Faith (an ultimately Jason) if we did not try to get her brother out of foster care. If we let him fall into the system, I knew in my heart that Faith would wonder why we had not tried to get him. I knew that Faith would look for him for the rest of her life. So we went after him.

Getting Jason from foster care means that I had to change my entire life again. I had to quit working from home. He needed that extra attention. And as a busy little toddler he was so very active. There was no way I could work.

4. I can honestly say that I’m not a typical mother but then maybe I am. Maybe people just need to realize that motherhood has changed. I make mistakes. I laugh at them. I learn from them but I make them. For instance: when Faith was 2 years old, we decorated her room. We allowed her to do some of the decorating with us. We decked her room out. I came up with a design in my head for the room. She was going to have a tea area in the park. Some place for a little girl to feel like a princess. We put down tiles on the floor to represent the tiles you would find outside. We painted the ceiling deep blue for the sky. We painted the main parts of the wall a light pink. We painted the trim green for grass. And then we went about drawing flowers and butterflies. Now here’s where we goofed, we allowed Faith to put her hands and feet into the paint for prints on the wall. To this day, Faith still tries to paint her walls every chance she gets. It doesn’t matter how many times we tell her she’s not suppose to do it. My husband had out filler which is what you use to fill holes in your walls. He left for 5 minutes. I do mean 5 minutes. She got into and put it all over her walls in that amount of time.

I am always learning something new that is best for my kids. I am always willing to share that information as well. Here as well as in stores I found out today. Motherhood is not cut and dry. Things are always changing and we must change with the time. The more I am a mommy the more that I realize how very blessed I am. There is nothing more rewarding to me than watching my children grows. I often wonder what they will be when they grow up. I’m always telling them that they can be anything they want to be. My kids have taught me things as well. They’ve taught me to be patient. They’ve taught me to look at the smallest things in life and enjoy them. They’ve taught me to cherish my inner child. They’ve taught me that my family is more important than anything that I could ever buy. I knew that before just not as firmly as I do now.

I have realized that being a mother doesn’t mean I have to live by someone else’s way it has to work for us. So if I feed my kids’ cereal at dinner, that’s all right by me. I’ve started new traditions with them. I have fun with my kids. I put them first. I do allow them to watch cartoons. I allow them to be a kid. I play with my kids. I get down on the floor and color with them. We play games. I read them books at night. We say our prayers together. 

5. I go out of my way not to teach my children fear. We decided early on not to teach them fear. You see, my husband’s sister is terrified of everything. She’s scared of going into her own basement. She’s scared of dogs. She’s scared of rain storms. As the kids have gotten older, I realized how easy it was to teach fear. We were going to the park. I asked the neighborhood girl to go with us. Faith was jumping from one bench to the other. I was watching as a normal mommy would do. I was holding my breath because I knew that she could fall and get hurt. It’s the hardest thing I ever had to do. When all of a sudden, the neighborhood girl grabbed her and said, “No, don’t do that! You’ll get hurt.” She would never try again after that. She was taught to fear something. We never let on if we are scared of something. I’m terrified of spiders. The kids are not aware of that.

These are just a few of the reasons that I think I am a Theta Mom.  So am I?  The only thing that I can tell you is that I believe that I am doing what is best for my children.  Thats all that matters to me.

I would like to tag all of my readers. Even if you aren’t a mother, tell us what you think one is. Please let me know when you do so. I want to learn about you as well.