Ok my budget just got shot to heck and back. My furnace stopped working last night. We had a service man out. He told us that it could run anywhere between $3,000 to $5,000. Yikes!! I thought I was finally getting a handle on things and wham!! This totally stinks!
I'm going nuts. It's the one thing that I need to be able to afford but can't. So I touch on the fact that I'm at home with the kids. My husband makes good money but it puts me in the middle class. Well ok. You all know what I think about the middle class. I think its non-existence. We simply are stuck sometimes. I was making such great money before Jason came. Don't get me wrong. I do NOT nor will I ever regret getting Jason. It's just that we could afford so much more. And yes, I let the bills run up. We could afford it. We were going somewhere.
Jason came. I had to quit my job. Now here's the interesting part, we chose to go after Jason. We would do it again. But we both EXPECTED that since he was in foster care that we would get help from the state. That's not how it was at all. Jason is related to my seven year old daughter, Faith. So it's a relation adoption. Which means the state does not help out at all. They don't give you any financial help at all. They don't give you daycare expenses. He was coming from another foster care provider who got daycare expenses. They don't give you any kind of financial support at all. We were lucky to get a medical card on him before we adopted him. So basically the state used us for babysitting while he was still a WARD of the STATE's. He wasn't even ours for a year while he was here. We couldn't claim him on our taxes either this year because he had to be with us for six months. Technically he was with us from the end of July. Basically foster care screwed us. I couldn't work anymore because Jason required that extra time. I couldn't put him in daycare because I didn't have the money to do so. And the state would NOT help. I asked for help and they turned me down when technically he was LEGALLY theirs.
Ok so here is the my actual complaint. My husband and I are NOT related to Jason at this point. My seven year old daughter was. So where was she suppose to get the money to support him?? He was a WARD of the court. We had to live by their rules yet we had to pay for it. Where are all the families that go after their relative's children who went into foster care for some ungodly reason going to get the money to support the child? Is foster care letting us down as a nation? I have to save YES.
Again we would still have adopted him no matter what but I wanted to finally say something.