One of the greatest gift you can give a child is acceptance – the radical, you-are-perfect-mind-body-and-spirit-just-the-way-you-are kind of acceptance. This may seems hard, because so few of us have experienced this soul-deep level of comfort ourselves.
Accept your child for who they are - not necessarily who you want them to be - but who they are. It is not easy, especially if you have a child that is not living up to their potential. Does this mean you should not discipline? Of course not! Discipline is essential. You should state and reinforce what your expectations of your child is. They need to understand what is expected of them, and they need to know that what is important to you that they excel in life. It is possible for you to accept them and still instill values, ambition and drive in them.